Bron from Maxabella Loves came up with 10 questions to see out 2014 and bring in the New Year. Here is my reply.
1. What word do you think best summed up 2014?
Busy. I think that word sums up all my years. I’m in a perpetual state of motion, a freight train if you will. Be more, do more. It’s a crock. A bad habit.
2. What did I do for the first time this year?
Became a mother to two children. That’s a first. I also went dragon boating. The dragon boating was easier. I also began to gradually let go of the things that make my life heavy. Mostly ideas about how things should be done. Near enough is good enough. That’s my new slogan, because perfectionism is bullshit.
3. What is one thing that happened that will have lasting consequences?
I accepted that I can not be all and do all. I also realised that time to myself is a necessity, not a luxury. This year, I will swim, I will walk, I will read, I will talk and I will do all of these things because I cannot be happy without it.
4. Was there anything you wished you had done differently? Why and how?
I don’t like this question. I could say yes, or I could ask myself what I learnt from the decisions I made. I learnt that parenting is hard. I learnt that periods of adjustment are just that, periods. I learnt that it is ok to have moments of weakness. I learnt that it is ok to ask for help. I learnt to forgive myself for giving less than my best and to share my worst to give others permission to do the same.
5. Do I have a favourite moment from the year? What made it special.
I had a baby. From his first breath to now. Joy! But perhaps the greatest joy is watching a sibling relationship unfold. A big brother proud of his baby brother, a baby enamored by his big brother. I hope they become the greatest of friends.
6. What lessons has 2014 taught you about yourself and about others.
I am a good mother. Not a perfect mother. A good mother.
I am a good wife. Not a perfect wife. A good wife.
I can not be all things, to all people, all of the time.
I can not have it all. At least not all at once.
I can live to a minimal standard and be selective about excellence.
I need my friends.
7. How will the lessons from the past year change the way you approach the New Year?
This year less is more and near enough is good enough. I want to be more respectful of my time. Rather than flogging it for all its worth I want to enjoy it for what it is.
8. What do you most want to change about yourself? The world?
I want to be a calm and energetic parent. Both of these things are a challenge for me. As for the world, it’s becoming too big, too much. I’m shrinking it down. My world is my family, my friends and my community. I can act on that. I can change that for the better.
9. What do I most want to do in 2015.
Go camping! We’ve got all the gear and we’re ready to go. All you campers out there throw your camping hacks my way and recommend some wonderful places!
10. What one word do you hope will sum up what you want to achieve in 2015?
ENERGY. I plan to find more and expend what I have wisely.
Happy New Year!